5 essential steps to raising a happy child

In the education of a child, there are no magic recipes given by experts. Parents are the best experts on their children. There are important issues that contribute to the happiness of children and parents.

5 essential steps to raising a happy child

1. Be a happy person

The best way to raise a happy child is to be a happy person. If you enjoy living and show it, if you are a secure person, happy at work and in your relationships, it will be much easier to maintain balance in your life and your child will assimilate that. Parents are children’s models, the reference for a lifetime. The way you act towards life will teach the child how to live it. Children are “sponges”. Happy parents are more likely to raise happy children.

2. Be available to be with your child, to play with him, to love him…

Be present. Moments of interaction between parents and children can make a difference. When possible, reserve some time of your day to play with your child. Remember that quality time is more important than quantity. If you like playing, sit on the floor, relive childhood games. Activate the inner child within you. It will also be therapeutic for you. If you don’t like playing, don’t force yourself to do it, look for activities suitable for the child’s age and enjoy!

3. Provide a routine, whenever possible.

We know that in the hustle and bustle of everyday life it is not always possible. It is important to communicate to the child what will happen that day, especially when you deviate from the routine. Predictability allows the child to feel more secure. Waking up and knowing what will happen next allows them to acquire our temporal notion and regulate their biological clock.

4. A father is not just good. He is good and bad.

It is important that there is a “No”, that there is firmness, that there are rules and limits imposed consistently. These give security to the child and tell him how far he can go. But it is also important that parents choose their “wars” and do not constantly use the word “No”. Sometimes, it is possible to help the child out of difficult situations by distracting him or giving him alternatives, privileging positive speech instead of negative speech, which will be beneficial for the child’s self-esteem. Throughout life, your child will often hear “No”. If you deal with “No” from the beginning, besides feeling more secure, you will ensure that in the future, when you hear “no”, you will know how to deal with adversity and maintain your psychological balance.”

5. Being a father is not only educating and caring, it is also giving affection.

The myth that we cannot show feelings because we become more vulnerable must be extinguished. Show your child how you feel and what you feel for him/her. The expression of feelings and emotions whether positive or negative is healthy. We are not supposed to always be well; we are humans and we also feel less good things. We feel anger, anxiety, guilt, anger and sadness. And we feel love, joy and compassion too. If you allow yourself to demonstrate these feelings and emotions to your child more easily he/she will demonstrate them without feeling guilty and consequently create more truthful and consistent relationships in the future.

Although it is beneficial for the emotional development of the child and for the well-being of the parents to take into account all these issues what really matters is to follow your intuition because nobody knows your child better than you do. We live in a daily life that “fabricates” educational tips and forgets intuition.

Above all be yourself be free be happy and that is the secret to educating a happy child if it is not seek help it is always time you will be teaching the child the best trump card in life… being herself being authentic besides that you will be making an enormous contribution to humanity in a society where more and more people are trapped by what others think or what they themselves think others think where spontaneity is lost.

Author: Ana dos Santos (uptokids.pt)